One of my favourite Wayne Dyer quotes is, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” It took me a while to get the full profoundness of this quote. I have found that in life we resist change. We hold on to our perspectives, our beliefs, and attitudes with a ferocious intensity. It is only when you change the way you look at things, that things start to change for you.
Are you narrowing the lane of your life?
Often we hold onto our viewpoints so tight that we narrow the lanes of our lives. We are surprised that we continue to have the same nauseating experiences over and over again. Yet we yearn for something new and exciting. We fight and resist anyone who is smarter, different or simply holds a different viewpoint. A need to be right or smarter than anyone else restricts the quality and expansion of a life well-lived. You have to ask yourself, “Am I narrowing the lane of my life? How broad, how wide, how deep do I want to live my life?”
Are you brave enough to change your perspective?
Beliefs, mindsets, and behaviours can change exponentially by simply changing one’s perspective. By simply asking yourself, “Is this belief, thought or behaviour serving me?” You open your mind to alternatives and begin an exciting transformation process. You learn to listen more and to act on the guidance within and around you. When you do, you open yourself up to learning and growing. Nothing is as it seems at first glance. It is only when you truly pay attention and care to look deeper that you change the way you look at things. It takes courage to look at things from all angles and to let go of dogmatic thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.
Questions to ask yourself.
Whenever I feel myself being dogmatic about an issue or topic. I ask myself a couple of questions that usually silence my opinionated self. I ask, “Are you looking at this issue with new eyes? Can you change the way you see this issue? Do you understand the other person’s perspective? Can you empathise with their viewpoint?” Time and time again I shift with greater insights. I have learned that it’s not important to be right but to; 1) understand the other perspective 2) empathise with the other person, 3) be open to sharing ideas and 4) resolve the conflict with a win-win outcome for both parties.
Change your life experience and change your life.
More importantly, I have found that when you change the way you look at anything relating to yourself. Just by ignoring your inner critique, letting go of fear and changing your limiting beliefs, thoughts, words, and actions; you change your experience of life. So, I yield often to ponder Wayne Dyer’s wise words, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Life takes on a sparkle simply by being open and changing your perspective. Often it leads to you learning and taking action that you never thought you would. You travel, you climb the Kilimanjaro, you swim with dolphins and you do what you love. Life is precious and short; live it to the max.
Wishing you love and light